Changing Your Mood

You decide what type of mood you are in and no one else. It’s true, we could let anyone ruin our day. We could let the guy that cut us off on the way to work control our entire day simply by allowing that one action to negatively affect us. Or we could let it pass and move on with our day.

Thoughts are a big one, what are you thinking about, what usually puts you in a better mood and then there’s the opposite. What are you dwelling on, what is festering and keeping you in a bad mood.

We could also find things to put us in a better mood. Exercise is important because it almost instantly puts us in a better mood with all those positive thoughts and feel good endorphins flying around. Of course nutrition is there, if we put better quality foods in our body, we have more energy and more energy always makes us feel better.

The list goes on but what it comes down to is, how will you control your mood, who will you allow to change your mood and what will you do about it.

2 thoughts on “Changing Your Mood

  1. I totally understand the point of the video and I try to practice the act of intentionally being in a good mood. But do you have any tricks or tips on how to convey the idea of not letting little things ruin your day… to a teenager?

    My son is a truly great person, but he has a terrible attitude towards life in general. He is anxious and nervous by nature, and this makes him want to retreat into his own world where he doesn’t have to deal with any everyday issues.

    Basic household chores like washing dishes turn him into a complete monster of negativity. He literally stares at the wall for minutes on end stewing and raging internally, and any attempt to talk to him is met with nothing but a head shake, meaning he won’t reply. He regularly spends an hour do do 10 minutes of dishes because he is physically unable to get out of his head and focus on simply washing plates and cups. He is literally immobile, just thinking and thinking and thinking about how he hates chores. We’ve all been there, but he takes it far beyond the typical bout of grumpiness into extreme anger.

    He honestly is a great, smart, kind, empathetic, gentle soul. but he goes into a shell of anger and despair any time he has to do something he doesn’t want to do. I try to explain how ‘attitude is everything’ and that we only have a finite amount of time on earth, so every moment spent angry is wasted. Naturally he comprehends the theory, but he simply cannot convert the knowledge into real life changes.

    Do you know a way to not just get the point across, but do it in such a way as to make it easier to incorporate into your life?

    Thanks for any ideas you might have. If you want to share this with others in hopes of crowd-sourcing ideas, feel free to do so! (without my name, please.)

    Cheers.

    1. Hi Pat!
      Thanks for taking the time to watch our video and share your experience as well. You mentioned sharing this, do you mind if I share it without your name and see what others have to say about it?

      Personally I would need to ask more questions to find out how to help. I would imagine your son correlates chores with something negative that he dealt with when he was younger. There’s a reason he’s so angry when it comes to chores, so finding that reason would make all the difference.

      How was he presented with the chores, was there another sibling that ‘got to do easier chores’, is he given any responsibility of chores with more meaning to him or more contribution. I’m only guessing but I’d say he likely feels these are meaningless chores that he’s stuck with instead of understanding that he is contributing to the family.

      Have you ever asked him what makes him so upset regarding chores? If you haven’t I would suggest asking when he’s in a good mood instead of asking when he is fuming.

      I hope that helps and if you like I’d be happy to carry the conversation on in hopes of finding a solution that can help.

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